第一次到老外家做客：心中有无限感慨

露特多

来了不久吧？看什么都很稀奇。不错，改变心态，别再处处强调自己是中国人，你会喜欢这里的。

chinuck

不明白为什么请你一家去做客.英语不好,交流成问题,还怕狗,没有共同话题,主人客人都难受.

清垃圾2020

看到这种标题 就反感。仿佛“老外”是外星球的。 这种文章通常出自没见过什么世面的，对外国/外国人的认知 大多来自电影的 那批人。

对老外最好以平和的心态，不要太重视他们，不要助长他们本来就有的优越感。
见到老白不要仰视，见到老黑也不要蔑视。 不管肤色怎样，人格是平等的。

否则再见到种族歧视者 就不是人家的错了-- 谁让咱中国人这么贱！

夜行骑手

写得很好，文笔流畅，真实可信。作为经历了风雨的老移民，在文中看到了作者一家对新生活的憧憬和义无反顾的参与投入。相信，他们一家一定能在加拿大找到传说中“平和安宁的新世界”。并因此祝福他们。

Jstar

Did your hubby's boss specifically invited your in-laws? If he just invited your family for dinner. That's mean the in-laws are absolutely NOT invited. This happened to me once in the past 30 years. I invited a Chinese friend's family over for dinner. They showed up with the in-laws. We were so outraged by their action and do not know them anymore.

jenny9107

去别人家里做客，本来就是会拘谨的，更何况是你的老板，而且你也很诚实的写出了你的真实感受，我想你女儿是真的开心，就这一点也是值得去的。

pjwyx

此文的标题：“第一次到老外家做客：心中有无限感慨”立意是很值得大家探讨的-------因为事情发生在加拿大，主人公当然是加拿大人了，作者是从中国来的，即便是有永久居留的人，如果没有入籍归化为加拿大人，尚不能称为实质的加拿大人，那么加拿大人就视其为宾客，可作者却把加拿大人称为：“外国人”--------有主人与宾客称谓，搞颠倒了之嫌！所以大家看到此文后，感觉有点怪怪的！---------实话实说！

arashi

Did your hubby's boss specifically invited your in-laws? If he just invited your family for dinner. That's mean the in-laws are absolutely NOT invited. This happened to me once in the past 30 years. I invited a Chinese friend's family over for dinner. They showed up with the in-laws. We were so outraged by their action and do not know them anymore.
Jstar 发表于 2012-10-30 10:16 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

如果你是中国人，应该知道这是中国的风俗习惯，就算你移民了，也永远无法彻底瞥请中国的文化；如果你不是中国人，你有权愤怒，可是为什么不大度一些，尝试了解一下中国的文化呢？中国的家庭本来就是祖孙三代甚至四世同堂。你邀请了别人一家，人家当然带着自己所有的家人来了。

If you are Chinese, you should have known this is Chinese culture. Even if you have immigrated to other countries, Chinese culture is in your blood forever. if you are not Chinese, certainly you have the right to be angry, but why don't you be more understanding, trying to learn about other cultures? A typical Chinese family always includes all generations. When you invite a Chinese family, you actually invite everybody closely related to that family including the couple, the children and the couple's parents and in-laws.
Also, instead of being angry, why not try explaining the culture here? Please be nice to those who may not fully understand the Canadian culture and please help them learn. With Multiculturalism, what we need most is open communication and mutual understanding.

物业管理

真正的融合不是那么的容易。各个族裔的多半还是和同类的在一起。

老虎猫猫

如果你是中国人，应该知道这是中国的风俗习惯，就算你移民了，也永远无法彻底瞥请中国的文化；如果你不是中国人，你有权愤怒，可是为什么不大度一些，尝试了解一下中国的文化呢？中国的家庭本来就是祖孙三代甚至四世同堂。你邀请了别人一家，人家当然带着自己所有的家人来了。

If you are Chinese, you should have known this is Chinese culture. Even if you have immigrated to other countries, Chinese culture is in your blood forever. if you are not Chinese, certainly you have the right to be angry, but why don't you be more understanding, trying to learn about other cultures? A typical Chinese family always includes all generations. When you invite a Chinese family, you actually invite everybody closely related to that family including the couple, the children and the couple's parents and in-laws.
Also, instead of being angry, why not try explaining the culture here? Please be nice to those who may not fully understand the Canadian culture and please help them learn. With Multiculturalism, what we need most is open communication and mutual understanding.
arashi 发表于 2012-10-30 10:32 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

非常同意！
不知道怎么有些人那么容易“愤怒”，心胸宽点对自己不是也有好处嘛。

canadafreeword

1, 2, 3 楼说的有道理.............

OASIS_2009

FLATTERED, EMBARRASSING

xiaofeiyu

Did your hubby's boss specifically invited your in-laws? If he just invited your family for dinner. That's mean the in-laws are absolutely NOT invited. This happened to me once in the past 30 years. I invited a Chinese friend's family over for dinner. They showed up with the in-laws. We were so outraged by their action and do not know them anymore.
Jstar 发表于 2012-10-30 10:16

    至于吗？‘outraged’。这人的心也就针鼻儿大。

露特多

至于吗？‘outraged’。这人的心也就针鼻儿大。
xiaofeiyu 发表于 2012-10-30 12:25 http://bbs.51.ca/images/common/back.gif

    这个家伙也许自己都不认识这个词，临时用字典查出来的。看到他那语法错误百出的短文，就知道他不会认识这个词。

ariel.c

咱51地界真是...LZ犯法了么？各个都搞得这么义愤填膺...俺震惊了。
LZ如果是熊猫，那楼下就都是爆竹——熊猫抱竹，中国特色～

LZ，欢迎来到加拿大，来者先作客，多看多学，早晚做主嘛～