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Totally agree!
I also think that it is not Chinese parents over depend on their kids or penetrate in their kids family, they just trapped in the net that their kids made by "love"
Because of the love, parents should give out their life saving to their kids and can't enjoy life like western elderly, and have to depend on their kids.
Because of the love, they have to devote all their energy and happy for their kid, no matter what they feel and think.
Some very gorgeous Chinese words-天伦之乐,舔犊之情,儿孙满堂, cover a fact that chinese elderly be treat as free labour and lose themself. It doesn't mean every family in this situation, but I can say many of them are. I am not criticise chinese culture but do feel they are misuse by someone.
I just wish Chinese parents could realise that they had finished their duty at the moment when their kids graduated from the university. It is time for them to think about themself and say "no" to their kids if they don't want. |
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