婆婆们的移民生活：老人的苦水向谁诉？

Porpoise88 · 发表于 2012-9-26 12:42:25

代沟在中外都有，婆媳矛盾自古有之。和移民有什么关系！在中国难道老人就不带孩子了吗？
能写这诉苦文章的，就不是省油的灯。

michelle09 · 发表于 2012-9-26 12:46:30

回复 4# wuhuakesuo

michelle09 · 发表于 2012-9-26 12:53:09

回复 4# wuhuakesuo

社会大环境影响的。一切向钱看。杀母都能干。

Josephin · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:02:15

代沟在中外都有，婆媳矛盾自古有之。和移民有什么关系！在中国难道老人就不带孩子了吗？
能写这诉苦文章的，就不是省油的灯。
Porpoise88 发表于 2012-9-26 13:42

very true!!! very bad luck to have a mother-in-law like this! 不开心离开就是，干什么闹到媒体？还是不甘心要论个输赢吧？可惜加拿大提倡平等，不是孝道。

Hoyereno · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:06:12

本帖最后由葱白与油菜于 2012-9-26 14:09 编辑

这个道理, 老年人很难理解了, 只能指望现在的中年人理解, 到他们老了不要再跟子女硬挤在一起闹不愉快. 时间会解决这类观念的问题.
加拿大老张发表于 2012-9-26 13:29

中国父母对子女的付出，跟西人父母对孩子的付出比，真是要多很多，供书教学，买房置业，照顾儿孙，几乎都在倾其全部，一代一代往下传。从这个角度看，子女获得的多，当然也应该付出得多。

再看这里的老外，养孩子有补贴，上不上大学自己看着办，上学自己贷款还贷，结婚成家自己解决，生了孩子自己带，帮忙照顾半天，还要提前约好，谈好，超过点时间都不行。父母对孩子付出的少，自然也应该获得的少。

古语说：“养儿方知父母恩”，有了孩子就有了割舍不断的牵挂，物质付出是一种，精神付出更大。我对孩子没有任何期望，只希望他健康快乐，将来生活自立就行！

hutumeimei · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:11:44

回复 30# 加拿大老张

They are in Toronto! Of course it is Canadian dollars. But does it matter in what kind of currency?

Hoyereno · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:14:13

本帖最后由葱白与油菜于 2012-9-26 14:15 编辑

代沟在中外都有，婆媳矛盾自古有之。和移民有什么关系！在中国难道老人就不带孩子了吗？
能写这诉苦文章的，就不是省油的灯。
Porpoise88 发表于 2012-9-26 13:42

你要给人家一个倾诉的渠道嘛，国内的老人没有语言障碍，有自己的朋友和社会生活，来这里的移民老人目不识丁，举目无亲（其他亲友）的，感受差别很大！

说起来一把鼻涕一把泪的，或者骂起来张牙舞爪的，一般还不出大乱，就怕不啃不哈的，突然做点什么事情，惊天动地的才悲催。之前不是出过一个婆婆抱着孙子跳楼，媳妇自杀的事么，还有什么外婆砍了亲孙女的双手的事！太恐怖！

这种家庭矛盾是隐患啊！

加拿大老张 · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:21:59

回复加拿大老张

They are in Toronto! Of course it is Canadian dollars. But does it matter in what kind of currency?
hutumeimei 发表于 2012-9-26 14:11

IT MATTERS! 加拿大一年挣27万加元的夫妻跟婆婆合不来, 只要花4万加元给婆婆找个私人养老院, 不就分开没机会吵了吗? 加拿大一年挣27万人民币的夫妻跟婆婆合不来, 才真没办法分开.

AMET · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:52:18

中国老人清醒点儿吧，你自己的人生自己负责，儿女不欠你什么

tzhou67 · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:58:06

"儿女不欠你什么..."

AMET, 说这种话, 你连畜牲都不如.

范蠡 · 发表于 2012-9-26 13:58:30

老人说:「我们已移民了,等加拿大的老人金和老人屋申请批准下来,我们就好了。」

That's probably the reason that they stay here and suffer

AMET · 发表于 2012-9-26 14:02:57

tzhou67, people just give their own options here you are free to agree or disagree but don't like a dog barking here.

hutumeimei · 发表于 2012-9-26 14:16:29

回复 38# 加拿大老张

The daughter in law does not care too much about her mother in law's picky attitude. They do not fight. Maybe she does care. That is why she usually does not stay at home. Sometimes she does not go back home to sleep.
The son needs his parents to take care of the family. Also he is very Xiaoshun. He joins her mother to be picky to his wife. And this causes the grand-daughter in the family is picky to her mother now.
You have to admit sometimes even if people make a lot of money they still do not want to spend 40K for parents to live outside. For this family, they have father in law too. So two people will be more than 40K. And the parents have house and good pension in China. They do not want to go back too. They just want to live in a hard life together in Canada.

hutumeimei · 发表于 2012-9-26 14:20:27

本帖最后由 hutumeimei 于 2012-9-26 15:21 编辑

回复 38# 加拿大老张

And the point I am trying to make is when mother in laws complain, it might not all the daughter in laws fault. So it does not matter what kind of currency the family is making. In China and in Canada, it is all the same. You cannot blame a daughter-in-law just because her mother-in-law said she was not Xiaoshun.

dan37 · 发表于 2012-9-26 14:21:20

主要是这些老人太扣门，吃住穿啥都要靠子女的，自己就一毛不拔，连坐个公车都嫌贵，喝茶游玩就别想了，哈哈，自个找的