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婆婆们的移民生活:老人的苦水向谁诉?
本帖最后由 加拿大老张 于 2012-9-26 11:51 编辑
I know daughter-in-laws always want to treat mother-in-laws nicely at the beginning. Then it ends in fighting a lot because daughter-in-laws cannot get any respect from their mother-in-laws.
Also, parents and parents in laws always want to interfere in young couples’ life: how they treat each other, how they raise children, what they should eat, what they should buy, and how they should spend money, etc. The interfere comes in very detailed level. I know a mother-in-law blamed her daughter-in-law in front of her friend because she could not slice the potato following the mother-in-law’s standard. I also know a mother-in-law talked to her son saying his wife was neither a good wife nor a good mother. At that time, the couple had been married for about 10 years.
Parents and parents-in-laws do not usually try to understand and support young couples’ decision but be very picky for everything they do. They want to use their limited knowledge about the society and the country to judge young couples’ life styles.
I would say before mother-in-laws complain, please check yourself first. Should you show any respect and try to live with your daughter-in-law peacefully at the beginning, it won’t be such a bad situation now.
hutumeimei 发表于 2012-9-26 11:26
每一代人都有自己的价值观和幸福标准, 就象老年人很难强迫晚一辈的中年人符合自己的生活习惯那样, 中年人很难强迫晚一辈的青年人符合自己的生活习惯, 否则只能是自寻烦恼,自己找苦水喝.
估计写这篇文章的是60-70岁的老年人. 想想看人生短暂, 活到80就是寿星了, 合不开就分开过, 眼不见心不烦. 有什么必要非住在一起吵得混天黑地的伤身体, 还觉得委屈? 儿孙自有儿孙的福, 好心帮不上忙, 就放手吧, 享受人生最后10年8年的时光. |
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