I have a friend have spent lots money on his son but always said to his son you owe me and you should return me when you grow up, now his son in college now only 2 hour drive from home but only come back home 3 times in the first year total less then 10 days.
I have son too, in high school but I said to him I,myself willing pay your college tuition but I want do it for you you don't owe me anything and you can go any where and do anything you like after graduate. We can take care of ourselves and you don't have to worry.
So I know what is a true love to my son and have no burden on his shoulder in the future.